What it means to be a gentleman?

Anyone can be heroic from time to time, but a gentleman is something you have to be all the time. (Luigi Pirandello)

If we say that clothes do not make a man nor a gentleman, it is not to say they do not play a crucial part of being a gentleman. Though, a gentleman is a gentleman even without his clothes - it is a way of life and a way of treating other people.

Gentleman's dress code has its roots in England, but today it is widely accepted all over the world as a classic style.

It should not be confused with conservative style, as every style evolves over time, accepting or rejecting novelties. So is the style of a gentleman. Novelty and innovations are accepted, but only after they have proven themselves and their worth.

Being, acting and dressing like a gentleman does cost money. A true gentleman is building his wardrobe over years, or better to say throughout his whole life. An investment in a good piece of garment makes sense only if it will be worn over years, will match well with other wardrobe items and will be properly maintained. A gentleman is always on the lookout for nice pieces of clothing that will make his collection more complete.

And as each person is unique, so will the wardrobe of each gentleman be different. Depending on his personality, he will choose the right garments to match it. It will actually happen unconsciously most of the times. Therefore, being and dressing like a gentleman is not some boring, old, conservative concept, but an enjoyable experience for men who like to treat people with respect and dress accordingly in every situation.

As we said, being a gentleman is not only how he dresses. The prerequisite for being a gentleman is the way he behaves and treats others. Below are the 10 eternal truths of the gentlemanly life (from 'How to be a gentleman' by John Bridges):

1. A gentleman says 'Please' and 'Thank you', readily and often.
2. A gentleman does not disparage the beliefs of others – whether they relate to matters of faith, politics, or sport teams.
3. A gentleman always carries a handkerchief, and is ready to lend it, especially to a weeping lady, should the need arise.
4. A gentleman never allows a door to slam in the face of another person – male of female, young or old, absolute stranger or longtime best friend.
5. A gentleman does not make jokes about race, religion, gender, or sexual orientation; neither does he find such jokes amusing.
6. A gentleman knows how to stand in line and how to wait his turn.
7. A gentleman is always ready to offer a hearty handshake.
8. A gentleman keeps his leather shoes polished and his fingernails clean.
9. A gentleman admits when he is wrong.
10. A gentleman does not pick a fight.

According to the same author, and since this is a BestMensTies.Com blog, there is one indisputable characteristic of a gentleman focused on neck-wear: 'A gentleman, once he is past the age of ten, ties his own tie. Especially if it is a bow tie. Especially if it is black.'

Do you think there is enough real gentlemen in your life?